Our life is a creation of our mind - Buddha
DO I NEED COUNSELLING OR PSYCHOTHERAPY?
I sometimes get asked what’s the difference between counselling and psychotherapy? Often they refer to the same thing. There is usually some counselling and psychotherapy taking place in every therapy session. However, in counselling the client and therapist usually work together to address a specific problem. Once that problem is resolved, the client often chooses to finish and this is usually after a relatively short timeframe, for example, 6 weeks. I usually suggest to clients that we work for 6 weeks and then you decide whether to finish or go further.
My training is in person centered, integrative counselling and psychotherapy. Person centered therapy is a non-directive approach, believing that if a client is working with a therapist who embodies the core conditions of empathy, unconditional positive regards and congruence or genuineness then the persons realises his/her potential and awakens the ability to make the right choices for him or herself.
Integrative counselling comes from the belief that there is no one theory that can explain the huge differences in human behaviour. Therefore integrative counselling selects different ideas and methods from a variety of theories and uses them in a complimentary way so they can fit the uniqueness of the clients and therapists personality and style.
MINDFULNESS BASED CBT
In more recent years I’ve studied and practiced mindfulness. In my work with clients I often use Mindfulness Based Cognitive Behavioural Therapy or (MBCT). MBCT was adapted from the Buddhist tradition as a way for people to help themselves. While the concept is simple we can find the practice challenging. The training involves some simple meditation practices as well as training in moment-to-moment everyday awareness. Mindfulness is a way of bringing your awareness deliberately to the present moment and accepting what you find, as opposed to judging it or wanting to change it.
Mindfulness has been scientifically studied all over the world and the benefits are generally agreed as including the following:
- Improves sleep
- Increases the ability in coping with pain and loss
- Boosts your immune system
- Helps to decrease depression and prevent relapse
- Lessen anxiety
- Reduces compulsive behaviour
- Aids with dealing with anger
- Increases self-confidence and self-acceptance
- Improves brain function (memory, empathy, creativity)
- Lifts mood
- Increases calm and relaxation
- Increases energy levels and enthusiasm for living
“Like many others , when looking for a service, I “googled” psychotherapists in Kildare. I chose Eimear because in her photo she seemed to have a kind and gentle demeanour. I found her exactly so in person.
I immediately felt at ease with her, and knew I could safely trust her with my innermost thoughts and feelings. During our journey together she helped me to discover what those thoughts and feelings were and how they prompted my behaviour and ultimately my quality of life. She laughed with me and when necessary gave me the space to cry. She allowed me to truly feel and truly be. She didn’t provide any direct answers but helped me to find answers for myself. In essence, she helped me discover myself and to accept with love the person who I am and I am so much the better person for having met and worked with her.”